So your relationship with your significant other is starting to get a little rocky...you're no longer in-sync...he or she isn't as attentive as they used to be...what do you do? How do you explain this break in your relationship? How do you get to the root of the problem?
Talk to him/her! Communication is beyond VITAL in relationships. You should always be able to discuss your concerns and fears with your significant other. Never be afraid to voice your feelings while also letting your partner feel comfortable to do the same.
First things first, NEVER be on the attack!
"YOU don't treat me the same anymore" or "I feel like YOU changed"
There are two people in a relationship, so make your partner feel as if you understand that fixing the problem is a two-person job.
"WE haven't been the same" or "What are WE doing wrong"
Approaching the issues this way will definitely help your partner to speak freely about how he or she really feels about the relationship.
But what if that doesn't work? What if talking accomplishes nothing? Does that mean it's okay to take matters into your own hands? Is it okay to find the answer yourself?
NO! NEVER! DON'T DO IT!
I SPEAK FROM EXPERIENCE! Snooping only leads to more problems...of course you'll find SOMETHING because you're looking for something! If it ever gets to a point where you are logging on to his/her Facebook account and reading through their inbox, unlocking their phone and looking through their text messages/call log, or checking their credit card history, then the relationship is OVER. Clearly, there is no trust or respect left...
NEWSPITTER, NY Daily News, and Lovepanky also have some thoughts on whether looking through your partner's things are right or wrong. Check out the links below and see what they have to say about it!
What do you think? Have you ever snooped through your partner's things, and the relationship changed for the better? Lemme know what you think!
Love,
Gem
NEWSPITTER
NY DAILY NEWS
http://articles.nydailynews.com/2010-12-28/entertainment/27086699_1_trust-issues-belongings-thoughts
LOVEPANKY
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